Happy Monday all!
Have you ever set a goal and a few weeks later, you find yourself at the same place you were before? I have been contemplating what makes a goal effective. How can you create a goal that you acclimate and follow to a tee? What makes a goal successful, and what makes a goal fail?
I started doing a little bit of research on this idea, and I came up with some general guidelines that I found helpful. So, let’s jump in and see how to make a goal applicable!
- Envision It First
Tony Robbins is a life coach that speaks on multiple topics. The YouTube linked below is geared more towards finances, but I think the meaning is still very relevant. Tony says you have to make your goals “so real that your brain already thinks it happened.” To increase the likelihood of achieving a goal, you have to believe it can happen. This is essential. Goals are a part of a mind game we all know too well. When writing a goal, envision yourself achieving that goal.
- Commit. Execute.
“The fact about human beings is that we are not designed to do things that are uncomfortable or scary or difficult. Our brains are designed to protect us from those things because our brain is trying to keep us alive.” -Mel Robbins
I highly suggest watching this video by Be Inspired. It is inspiring and only ten minutes long. I wanted to highlight the quote above because it demonstrates how powerful our mind is. The video talks about a five second rule which states that you have five seconds to act on an idea before your mind intervenes. When trying to dedicate yourself to a goal, it’s so essential to know that the process is going to be difficult. You are going to have to push yourself to perform activities you haven’t before and to stay consistent. Your mind is going to want to work against you, but if you treat every decision with the five second rule, you can act before those thoughts tell you no. A goal is more than motivation. It’s deciding what you want, committing to a plan to achieve it, executing that plan, and disciplining yourself to stick to it. Trust your plan.
- Don’t Focus on Your Goal.
Reggie Rivers Ted Talk brings is a very unique take on goals—I found the title counterintuitive at first! However, he points to the idea that a goal is outside your control. All you can do it change your behaviors geared towards that goal. By manipulating your behaviors, you create the opportunity to achieve that goal. While yes, it is important to envision a goal, it’s also important to realize a goal is more than planning and stating it on a piece of paper.
- 3 Questions
Jay Shetty takes a more concrete way to approach forming a goals. When trying to set a goal or even revising a pervious goal, ask yourself:
- Are your goals too vague, and are they not specific enough?
- Are your goals too grand to be achievable? (building blocks)
- Are you surrounded by the right people and are you influenced by the right people?
I think this is a great template to use when looking at an overarching goal. It allows you to focus on your expectations and create a goal that can be reached. Then, you can create building blocks to can change your behavior. Finally, by changing your environment, you can change your mindset and fully commit to achieving your goal.
When I first listened to this material, I felt inspired and overwhelmed. Changing your mind set and behaviors is a gradual process, and by no means am I going to be a brand-new person tomorrow. However, I think reflecting back on these types of videos from experts can help a person understand what area they are weak in and what they can do to improve so that a goal can be achieved.
What are your current goals?